Talking about intelligent things all the time is an unfair expectation
Sit here and babble
I made my account public in March 2021 because I thought everyone needed to read what I wrote — I knew I could string words together but as weeks passed, I realized that I wrote superficial, unresearched, and personal pieces that lacked depth and were (I hate to admit it) GOSSIP, chit chat.
But I found a rationale for it, just like I do for all the things I do incorrectly because don’t forget I am the best.
The following article is about chit-chat and how it’s good for the mind, body, and soul.
Gossip helps build connections. It is the most rapid way of understanding how well two people are aligned. A notch above small talk, it is an immediate giveaway of how far two people can go together.
Everyday conversations are seldom intellectually charged. They’re about what you ate, where you went, what your mom said, what your friend did, how a stranger behaved in an agenda-less fashion. And that’s how it’s ought to be. In-person social interaction is cathartic because it punctuates your continuous flow of thoughts, gives you a unique perspective so that you don’t go plummeting into that pit of misery and self-doubt.
Most long-term relationships are an outcome of how connected you can remain in mundane times.
Luke Chang describes gossip as,
communication about social topics involving self-disclosure and discussions about others.)
Social cooperation is our key for survival and reproduction. It is not enough for individual men and women to know which rocket made it to the moon and the prices of crude oil. It’s much more important for them to know who in their band hates whom, who is sleeping with whom, who is honest and who is a cheat.
Think about it, how many of our relationships are dependent on shared non-people interests? We cannot talk about the same shows, books, hobbies, ideas repeatedly. Intimate information about ourselves or others anchors our conversations and why shouldn’t it?
A conversation about the boy who’s hitting on you having a history of violence is much more important than a conversation about XYZ country’s civil war and the plausible implications of it on the world economy
The grapevine is essential to survival and if not survival, at least maneuvering through some bad situations in life.
“…can cooperate in extremely flexible ways with countless numbers of strangers. That’s why Sapiens rule the world, whereas ants eat our leftovers and chimps are locked up in zoos.” Yuval Noah Harari, Sapiens
This article is not an explanation for slandering people but please stop feeling superior because you talk about cryptocurrency and geopolitical tensions. It doesn’t make you better than anyone. In fact, those conversations are less likely to have an impact on you.
I am going to take this opportunity to tell you a story about something that happened in my little city. A boy, a lousy, poorly raised, entitled boy, thought it was okay to force himself on an inebriated girl and so he did, & quite unapologetically.
The justice system on its flailing foundation, sits with its disgusting face on display so in my limited understanding, I sit here in my personal court of law deeming him guilty.
Everyone is my city knows that it happened, at least most of us do.
And we, at least the ones who care a little, actively stay away from him, and take it upon ourselves to warn others who could be potential victims.
There isn’t just one such boy. So, the one you’re thinking about is probably not the one I’m thinking about but yes, take care.
Moving on, the grapevine can save your life or at least your sanity. Now, it is upon us as innately good human beings to know what needs to propagate and what doesn’t.
I know the Chinese whisper is distressing because ‘what will people think’ breaches upon our individual freedom — but the issue is not the grapevine, it is what we deem as dishonourable.
Good day everyone except the aforementioned boy.
